Survey shows that Chinese people do not dare to do good because of fear of being ridiculed

Why do people dare not do good things?

Lack of social integrity, fear of being ridiculed or suspected motives

Helping disabled elderly people to cross the road to give pregnant women who are pregnant with sixties ... These seemingly ordinary good people are now getting better and better. A few days ago, a survey released by the China Youth Daily Social Survey Center showed that 76.1% of people admitted that the community is now doing a good job in a bad environment; 68.3% of people said that good things are ridiculed or questioned more often, leading people directly to When you do good things, you will think twice. In addition to objective factors, experts said that people’s moral awareness and moral concepts are gradually becoming weak, which is the real reason why good people have fewer and fewer good things.

"No one to help, why do I need to manage?"

On May 27th, the temperature in Beijing climbed to 34°C. At noon, bus 364 was crowded with passengers. The car just reached the north of Guanzhuang Road. Passengers who waited for the car took a plunge. "All go inside." The voice of the conductor was far from the crowd. A woman holding a baby after the team tried to put the stroller on the bus with one hand, but gave it up because she took care of the baby in her arms. The conductor began to help her with her. The young men standing at the door immediately turned his head to one side. At this time, some passengers shouted, “You can't walk away and delay everyone’s time.” When the reporter was preparing to push from the back door to the front door to help, a 50-year-old male passenger in front of the crowd crowded out to help the women push the stroller. Take the bus. "How do you want to help people with the handle?" the male passenger stood and said angrily. After getting off the train, the reporter asked why the young man who had just stood by the door did not help. He said: "No one is going to help. Why do I need to manage?"

Xiao Li, who works as a security guard near Dawang Road, is also a good rapist. Xiao Li said that he saw a thief stealing a girl's bag a few days ago. Xiao Li shouted and hit with the thief. Xiao Li and his coworkers put him in uniform and prepared to send the thief to the police station together with the stolen girl, but the girl had already disappeared. Xiao Li said that he did not expect to be able to stand up and exchange a word of thanks, but he was beaten and the person who had been stolen still left quietly. This made him feel "cold". "I will think about this situation later."

Over 70 years old grandfather Wu said that in the past, there was not so much defense between people and people. When they encountered something, everyone helped solve it. “The gas tanks at home more than ten years ago were all well-intentioned people who helped me to go upstairs.” Grandpa Wu said, and now I would like to find someone to pick up gas cans. Few people will help him.

The reporter randomly interviewed nearly 20 passersby. Fifteen of them said that if they saw difficulties on the road, they would not take the initiative to ask and provide help; if they encountered passers-by for assistance, 12 people would think about it; if they had difficulties, 16 would like to get it. Help from others.

This result coincides with the recent investigation by the China Youth Daily Social Survey Center. The latter survey of 7,804 people showed that 76.1% of the people admitted that “society is doing a good job in a good environment”, among which 39.1% think it is “very bad”; 68.3% said that “good things are ridiculed or questioned. There are many phenomena, of which 20.2% said they were "very much." 71% of people said that they would not be motivated to do good things.

Behind the crisis of confidence is the lack of moral education

The above investigation is very easy to think of the shocking incident of Guangdong Yue Xiao Yuet. When Yue Yue was lying in a pool of blood for seven minutes, the 18 passers-by who witnessed the incident chose to be indifferent. Behind this tragic tragedy is the torture of social conscience and human nature.

Lack of trust is the core. Xia Xuejun, a professor of sociology at Peking University and Yang Dongjun, an associate professor at the Department of Psychology at Southwest University, believe that good people have fewer and fewer good things. The lack of social integrity is the key reason. There are many scams in the society that use people's good intentions to set up, and “deceptive” tends to cast a shadow over people’s kindness. Fragile love can't withstand deceptive fraud, and the lack of integrity makes many people unwilling to help. Yang Dong stated that in the period of economic transformation, values ​​are diversified, and a stable value system in the conflict has not yet formed. Many people are overdrawing and trusting. Once there is a lack of trust in others for this society, on the one hand, it will worry whether the other side will cause trouble for themselves. On the other hand, it is easy to doubt their own values ​​and it is difficult to persist for a long time.

Moral education is getting worse. Once the pupils answered “If you are Kong Rong, what would you do?”, the “I will not let Pear” answer trigger no small controversy. In fact, in ancient times, moral education had occupied a crucial position whether it was family or private school. Today, quality education has been proposed for many years. Moral education has not received enough attention. When our parents are educating their children, they often remind people not to talk to strangers. Like teachers, they pay more attention to the quality of their results. They do not care much about whether children have good or honest qualities. From elementary school to university, many so-called moral education classes are virtually useless.

Typical negative cases have a large impact. “On the whole, this society is not so bad.” Yang Dong believes that some typical cases such as the Xiaoyue Yue event and the Nanjing Peng Yu case have caused people’s awareness to be biased and feel that it is getting harder to do good things. . This is actually a deviation of social perception. Just like the same plane crash, many people think that airplanes are particularly insecure. In fact, the proportion of deaths caused by plane crashes is much smaller than the proportion of deaths caused by trains or cars. . Negative case events cannot represent the darkness of the people.

Modern people have a strong purpose in communication. Xia said that from a social perspective, before people do something, they will consider what this event can bring to them. If the reward is greater than the pay, they may choose to do it. If the return is less than the pay, they may choose not to do it. This is the famous "social exchange theory" in sociology. Therefore, before doing good, people will pay special attention to the evaluation of others. If it is negative, such as “stupid and impure”, people will be less willing to help others. This performance is even more pronounced during the period of economic transformation blindly to money. In addition, the “presumption of guilt” adopted by China in a certain degree after the occurrence of the incident has also affected the enthusiasm of everyone to do good things. People feel that good people do not receive good protection.

However, Mr. Zhang, a person in charge of a non-governmental public welfare organization in China, believes that the high cost of doing good is just an excuse for some people who do not want to help others. In his opinion, helping others is a very simple matter. It is a person's heartfelt good.

Doing good things should come from the heart

"Emotions and love are what everyone needs. The goodness of human nature will come out when it is slightly activated." Yang Dong said that our society does not lack love. After the trust mechanism has been destroyed, it still needs to be repaired by promoting goodness. For dishonest deception, it requires government supervision and punishment.

Keep things simple. According to research by Dr. Sonia, a psychology expert in the United States, doing 5 good things a day can make people happy and peaceful. Some effort and insignificant trifles will give you unexpected rewards.

Encourage role models and classic strength. Xia Xuejun said that no matter how the economy develops, the traditional role of historical education cannot be ignored. The classic culture of Confucianism such as Kong Rongrang’s PEAR and 24 filial piety should be inherited from generation to generation. In terms of moral education, it should be more "simple", such as educating children to "actively give classmates borrowed rubber" instead of "grow up to be a hero". The media must also promote goodness and report more positive content.

Give more rewards to good people. Under the current education system, only fractionalism is still prevalent, and you may wish to learn some good practices abroad and encourage people to help others and do more good things. For example, Singapore began to educate children from elementary school to help others. Until high school graduation, there will be one hour of virtue classes every week. In order to cultivate children's sense of responsibility for society from a young age, each secondary school student must attend at least five hours of community service each year. If the performance is particularly prominent, the elite school will also be eligible for admission.

In addition, from a social perspective, the well-known public interest lawyer and Beijing Ruifeng Law Firm Li Fangping has called for a breakthrough in the social system so that the law can truly perform the function of “punishing evil and promoting charity”; "Heroic title"; to enhance the level of social security and medical insurance, so that vulnerable groups can also be "child care, old and dependent." He said: "The reconstruction of social trust may be difficult, but it is worth our paying for it."

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